I’d like to share with you the books, lecture series, and YouTube channels that have been very important to me in my journey. Some of you may be wondering from where in the world I’m getting my ideas. Or, maybe you are in a relationship and thinking, “I’m really not sure what to make of this. I feel like something is very wrong, but is it abuse? Is my partner a narcissist?” I hope and pray these materials will help you on your own journey as they have helped me. I’m thinking I’ll probably do an update here and there with new materials as well because I’m always reading and searching!
Today I would like to ask you something. If you follow my blog, will you, please, share it with your friends, family, or those whom you think it would benefit? I am restricted in how much I can share this site. I live in a small rural-ish community, and I don’t desire to shame my ex-husband or cause problems with my children who do have a relationship with him. I also don’t want my grown children who don’t know about this site and who don’t necessarily, at this point in their lives, understand the actions I’ve had to take, to suffer from seeing what I have written. Unfortunately, at one point, they will have experienced, to one degree or another, what I and their other siblings have experienced in/from their father. But each adult human needs to be able to learn for themselves and make their own decisions about the safety of their relationships and what steps they want to take for themselves. They also may not be ready to “hear” about my recent spiritual seeking. They grew up with certain definite beliefs that I and their father conscientiously taught them. I am still in the open waters of finding myself and my God again. Finding out that I am questioning as much as I am would be difficult for them at this point. Although I know God invites questioning and investigation and I taught my children that fact, the extent to which I’m doing so would make them feel uncomfortable. Thank you so much for your support! Share, share, share with those who are safe and could benefit.
For information on abusive relationships:
Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare by Shahida Arabi
The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans
Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
Common Ego YouTube channel (here’s a video to start you on your way: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Tfg0veZHgk )
Dr. Ramani YouTube channel (for example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jfRGnG–H4 )
Leslie Vernick YouTube channel. She also runs Conquer, a support group for women, which opens up every six months and then closes for intimacy and privacy. (Here’s one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WRlA9XerOnc )
Patrick Doyle on YouTube (You can start her if you want: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOEYFnQLm4s ) VERY VERY important issues. What is reconciliation and when to do so? What is forgiveness and what does it mean as a Christian? Many times-especially in the church- we confuse forgiveness and relationship. This can be disastrous.
For comfort and general personal growth:
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.
The Motivation Manifesto: Nine Declarations to Claim Your Personal Power by Brendon Burchard
Inside the Heart of the Tornado (poetry) by Lisanne D’Andrea-Winslow
Inside the Mind of the Tornado (poetry) by Lisanne D’Andrea-Winslow
Inside the Soul of the Tornado (poetry) by Lisanne D’Andrea-Winslow
Specifically Yoga, Growth, and Healing:
Eastern Body, Western Mind by Judith Anodea. This is an amazing book combining the chakra system with Western minded psychology. So much information!
My Vinyassa Practice. This is the 300 Hour Yoga Teacher Training I am doing. I LOVE IT!
Stretching Your Faith (a book about “Christian Yoga”) by Michelle Thielen
Yoga and the Quest for the True Self by Stephen Cope
Spiritual Growth. I have read hundreds of books on this topic from a Christian perspective over the years. Here you will find “different” ones. Well, and some “regular” ones that I read in the past year:
The Bhagavad Gita translated by Eknath Easwaran
The Best Guide to Meditation by Victor N. Davich
Healing the Divide: Recovering Christianity’s Mystic Roots by Amos Smith
Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers by Anne Lamott
iRest, lecture Series on Wondrium (Great Courses) taught by Molly Birkholm of the iRest Institute
Luther’s Small Catechism with explanation, Concordia Publishing House
Living Buddha, Living Christ by THich Nhat Hanh
The Message Bible by Eugene H. Peterson. This is one that I am revisiting. I used to be embarrassed to say I liked in during my short stint at a Christian University after I got my BA at FSU. We were not supposed to like such an “nonacademic” version.
Real Zen for Real Life, lecture series on Wondrium (Great Courses) taught by Bret Davis Ph.D.
Right Here, Right Now: The Practice of Christian Mindfulness by Amy G. Oden
Pagan Christianity? by Frank Viola and George Barna
The Universal Christ by Richard Rohr
Without Buddha I Could Not Be a Christian by Paul F. Knitter
A Year of Mindfulness by Jennifer Raye
Till next time! Thanks so much for joining me in my journey!